In my past, relationships have been all talk or all actions. Actually, I take that back, it’s always been all talk. So regardless of the lack of follow through in those relationships; I find myself craving more Schmootie boo “talk” from the “all action” guy I am dating.
I thought I knew what my needs were and the ways for them to be met. My revelation this weekend was there are indeed actions that not only serve me in trusting a Man, but also give me the ego Schmootie boo I need to hear.
This Fabulous person I am dating isn’t a mushy talker at all! He is anti PDA and yet steps out of his comfort zone occasionally to try and meet my needs. He is such a good man, but I hate feeling like I am trying to change him to be someone he isn’t just to be completely satisfied. He already climbs mountains to see me and jumps through my emotional hoops. After a long talk this weekend we were trying to find a compromise. We both like each other very much, it’s just all so new and we are still getting to know each other.
Then it all became clear. He took the trash outside to the dumpster. He reset my pain-in-the butt clock and rehung it the correct way. (using a drywall something instead of my sorry excuse for a nail.) He hooked up my insurance attachment to my car & went to put air in my tires. I am then hit smack in the face with the realization, “This man is taking care of me… he cares about me”. I know this may sound like silly things, but as a single woman for the past 5 years having to do everything myself, I was truly moved by these actions. The same way I would have been moved if he said “I care about you” or “I want you and the kids to stay safe”. It was loud and clear as if the words were said .. simply by his actions.
He schmootie boo’d me in a way I’d never seen before. I didn’t ask him to do things, he just took the initiative and “took action”. He has filled me with joy and hope. Maybe I am just getting old and my schmootie boo desire have changed but I am happy, and that’s what matters most to me.
I wish you all incandescent love!