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Trump the Anger

Small but Mighty

I am a short storyteller. I like to invoke feelings and make people think. My stories aren’t life-changing, but blips in my life. If they inspire one to ponder or give warm fuzzies then my mission is complete!

Your mind is an incredible thing. I wholeheartedly believe WHAT we put in our minds can change our whole deminer that moment. ( I say this so often, please hear me out… again) For instance, watching a scary movie or any book/movie about anything that negatively affects a child, is going to mess me up for daaaaays. Yes, I know it is just a book/movie, but that negative energy just hangs with me. So I avoid it! Just another example of how I protect my space by controlling what’s in it.

So let me tell you a story.

My littlest little is struggling with anger issues. He’s at this life phase where he can’t do everything his older siblings do. He wants to be included and hasn’t had as much practice so doesn’t get the results they get and then ~ an Anger Tornado whisks him away to a land of frustration.

We attempt to talk it out with him and sometimes it works, but other times he is at the point of no return. So one day I sat him down and told him the next time he gets upset, instead of saying “I can’t control my anger!!” I want him to say “I CAN control my anger, I just need more practice!”

Being 8, he thought I was ridiculous! Why say that? I can’t control it yet?!? I told him that the funny thing about being a human is if we say something enough times, we start to believe it and our whole mindset will change. So even if he can’t now, he will soon!

So now I get a super angry 8-year-old screaming “I CAN control my Anger, I JUST NEED MORE PRACTICE!”

What is something you can start saying to yourself?

The Rose

Railway Arch over the Bark River. Picture gotten from foursquare.

In high school, I lived on the top floor of a house. The downstairs was used for a business, maybe an attorney?? I honestly don’t remember. Our floor was 4 rooms and a bathroom. Nothing fancy. The magical thing about this house was its location. The backyard was abut the Bark River and Nixon park was on the other side. One of the popular summer hangouts and because so many kids were out and about there, we had daily friend visits and many requests to use our bathroom.

Hanging on our bathroom wall, directly across from the toilet was a framed paper with handwritten lyrics of the song “The Rose”. A song sung by Bette Midler that was number 1 on the Billboard charts for 5 weeks straight in 1980. You couldn’t help but read it EVERY SINGLE TIME you were using the facilities at my house.

One night, a bunch of my girlfriends & I were swinging on the front porch singing and somebody suggested we sing “The Rose”. Next, I was like “Hey! I know that song, it’s in my bathroom!” and they all laughed uncontrollably and replied, ” We ALL know that song because it’s in your bathroom!”

Today as I type this, almost 30 years later, I am in awe of how what is placed before us is consumed by our minds. It is so important to surround yourself with SUNSHINE and positivity and love and giggles! I leave you with the lyrics of ‘The Rose”. I hope it fills your thoughts with hope.

The Rose, Bette Midler

Some say love, it is a river
That drowns the tender reed
Some say love, it is a razor
That leaves your soul to bleed
Some say love, it is a hunger
An endless aching need
I say love, it is a flower
And you, its only seed

It’s the heart, afraid of breaking
That never learns to dance
It’s the dream, afraid of waking
That never takes the chance
It’s the one who won’t be taken
Who cannot seem to give
And the soul, afraid of dying

That never learns to live

When the night has been too lonely
And the road has been too long
And you think that love is only
For the lucky and the strong
Just remember in the winter
Far beneath the bitter snows
Lies the seed that with the sun’s love
In the spring becomes the rose

Songwriters: Mc Broom Amanda

The Rose lyrics © Warner-tamerlane Publishing Corp., Third Story Music, Inc.”

I do not own the rights to this song**